Book Chap “It’s Working” This is my Season.

Book Chap “It’s Working” This is my Season.

This is my season for Grace, for Favor, to Reap what I have Sown. Everything is working together for my good. I haven’t been perfect, but I’ve been faithful. As I progress through life, God’s seasoning has adorn me life lessons that have allowed me to gain an understanding that through it all, He, has remained faithful to all of His promises. The dilemma here is how my faithfulness measures up to what God’s expectations were for me. Did I meet or exceed what was expected? Have I lived up to what God was expecting? When we become transparent with ourselves can we now become transparent with God? Our ability to be open and honest about those moments when questions about our character is evident. Romans 23:27 says, “for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God being justified freely by His grace through the redemption that is in Christ Jesus, whom God set forth as a propitiation by His blood, through faith, to demonstrate His righteousness, because in His forbearance God had passed over the sins that were previously committed, to demonstrate at the present time His righteousness, that He might be just and the justifier of the one who has faith in Jesus.”

Even though the reality that we have created may not actually be the real reality of our life. This artificial reality that we create so that we don’t have to deal with the true reality that allows us to sleep at night knowing we are living a lie and that we can’t get a peaceful night’s rest because of the conflict with the mind, body and spirit. These are those moments when we substitute self indulgences like drugs, alcohol or sex to stimulate or to quiet down what the Holy Spirit has been communicating to us for a length of time.

The pain associated with this behavior drives us further away from the direction that the Holy Spirit would have us to pursue. As we travel further along down this path, the Holy Spirit grieves for us. Ephesians 4:29-32 says, “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, with whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.”

We all have fallen short !!


“Try a little tenderness”

Book Chap “Try a little tenderness”

Sometimes all we have to do is ” try a little tenderness”.  The legendary musical artist Otis Redding sung about it.  In those  moments when it seems so hard when your right or whether you’re wrong you have to be able to step back and just try little tenderness. In those moments ultimately what you’re really reaching for is to be able to find a little peace of mind in the little time that we have called life.

When we find ourself in a heated situation and you feel mistreated you have to try a little tenderness this can be very difficult especially if you’re dealing with the ego. The dualities of the two ego’s your ego and your spouses / significant other ego can create difficult situations.  When you try to maintain a balance between both ego’s wanting to win only the one that has enough maturity to understand that you can agree to disagree peacefully without disrespecting the other person’s opinion.

The lack of maturity will put you in a position for you to have someone to win while the other loses in order for you to feel above the other person.  It basically comes down to I’m elevated and you belated or below. This will make things difficult for the relationships because the selfishness factor that becomes a situation where instead of a win-win, it now becomes a lose-lose on top of the different emotions that’s detached or attached to the situation.

When you attach strong emotions that may conflict with your opinion and you don’t have a good relationship with God or spend enough time in the word where you can renew your mind on a daily basis, it becomes a situation where those things become like building blocks and they keep building and building causing misunderstanding that create barriers that overtime lead to the breakdown of the fabric that your relationship was built on. Love and understanding must be interwoven within the relationship.

According to the Apostle Paul’s description of “Agape” love in 1 Corinthians 13, it is sacrificial, demonstrated by Jesus’ death on the cross, does not display itself haughtily. It is not conceited (arrogant and inflated with pride); it is not rude (unmannerly) and does not act unbecomingly. Love (God’s love in and for man) does not insist on its own rights or its own way, for it is not self-seeking; it is not touchy or fretful or resentful; it takes no account of the evil done to it [it pays no attention to a suffered wrong]. It does not rejoice at injustice and unrighteousness, but rejoices when right and truth prevail. Love bears up under anything and everything that comes, is ever ready to believe the best of every person, its hopes do not fade under any circumstances, and it endures everything without weakening. [Love never becomes obsolete or comes to an end]. Love never fails”. (AMP)

Renew your mind.




Book Chap: Love Does It Truly Matter?

Book Chap Love: Does it truly matter? Is your love consistent? Is it conditional based on how you feel at the time and what you do for me or don’t do for me. What have you done for me lately? These are some of the questions that subconsciously could be running through your mind at any given moment. Be it consciously or subconsciously your body language along with your love language could be playing out a scenario that will ultimately damage your relationship because now  you are keeping a scorecard on what you do for me versus what you don’t do for me.

When you find your self On this realm you take the we as one out of the relationship and put into play the you, or the me, this emphasizes the individual instead of unity of us.   The togetherness the bond that says what God has put together let no man tear apart. We become susceptible to outside influences with their contrasting opinion the so called friends in your ear.
The girlfriends who has never been married who has not had a healthy relationship in their life and with a high probability that they will be single the rest of their life.

The epitome of bitterness and hate-a ration secretly or blatantly. The fellas has their version of these kind of certain individuals who are a wolf in sheep clothing come bearing fruits of discord. They are the ones on standby who you share your complaints about your woman who stay on alert to swoops in to steal your love one because you played yourself now you are the fool assed out.  Again my wording is meant to trigger a heart felt response, because that is what you will be in no uncertain terms. Don’t get me wrong sometimes we might just be in a situation where some tough decision need to be made, but we must allow spiritual guidance to influence these matters of the heart.

When we find ourselves seeking to establish or negotiating allowances to Justify our actions, then turn around and have zero tolerance for our partner how is that suppose to work? Short memories on relating to the moment when You did not satisfy my expectation, and when the situation is in reverse it becomes like the movie “Ground Hog Day” over and over again. Unfortunately when the scales of relationship justice becomes unbalanced and we lose sight  of our spiritual identity and along with our marital vows or relationship commitment we become corrupt vessels void of light and the salt that God has intended us to be. The Holy Spirit refuses to dwell in such a place spiritual disarray now the question is “What do you value”?

Again, what do you value? How much emphasis do you place on valuing your marriage and what God has intended for Holy Matrimony. We have allowed Love and personal sacrifice to be factored out of the equation of what God intended to be a Holy Sacred event in our life to become apart of contemporary lifestyle view of instant gratification.

The willingness to commit to the effort that is necessary to ensure a healthy viable marriage / relationship fall s into the same categories as instant rice. We want our pleasures now and if we can’t then throw it out. I consider this the microwave lifestyle that society has embraced. No more boiling the rice just slap it in the microwave and wa-la. Once upon a time people cared enough for each other to want to get things right for themselves and their spouse and children now its all about me regardless if kids are involved. We can’t seem to delve deep enough inside ourselves due to the bombardment of the negative images of selfishness that the media feeds us a full diet of everyday. Some of us has a robust diet for this type of material and even when we had enough we find some way to regurgitate it up and to start the process all over. Society has become hooked on drama.

In a marriage or a relationship we should focus on Valuing a person strength and minimizing their weakness. Unfortunately we have become a society that embellish the idiosyncrasies of a need to exert our false sense of superiority over another individual in order to make us feel better about ourself. Why can’t We appreciate helping another individual grow and develop and marvel quietly inside and admire how you made a difference in your man or woman life helping them to make new connections within themselves that will benefit the marriage / relationship. I think about the chaos that was taking place during the riots in California and the person who tragically suffered during the process who in his personal brokenness came out and made a echoing statement “Can’t we all just get along”. Why do we need the feel it has to be about us all the time.

Value: What do you value? How much of emphasis do you place on the thing, people, relationship? Valuing a person strength and minimizing the weakness

Faith: How much do you have. Does your action reflect what you say you have.

Allowances: Do you have allowances? Do your spouse have allowances for you. Are you zero tolerate?

Respect: Lack of, Cockiness with your disrespect;

Honesty: Cockiness with your lies, you feel as if you don’t have to explain anything and you do what the hell you please.

Determination: How determine are you willing to fight for your family. Cutting and running.

Unforgiveness: Renewing of my mind daily. Spending time in the word. Not wanting to hear the word. What spirit are you feeding.

Normal vs. Abnormal behavior? Why accept it when you know this is not what God intended.

Embracing the distorted behaviors as if it was normal.

Understanding who you working with God or satan.

People fight to save their marriage / relationship why aren’t you?


What would you have yourself believe?

Book Chap: What would you have yourself Believe?

As a kid growing up in Brooklyn we had a saying sike your mind your booty shine. This was about telling someone a story aka a lie having them to believe you and then telling them what you said was not true. To what extent are we willing to go in order to make ourselves believe something that is not true? This type of personal trickery which works for us during short-term periods and enables us to function within the delusion that we create to satisfy our craving for validation by someone or something because we lack the ability to develop a sense of spirituality that will allow us to become one with one’s self. We become compel to demand validation from outside sources to validate us and to put someone else stamp of approval other than our Creator who has already validated us. We need to look no further than what God has already stated who we are.

The greatest love of all comes from the Father. Ephesian 5:22-23 tells us, But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness,23) gentleness, self-control. Against such this is no law. God genes are encoded into us it that allow our natural to tap into His supernatural. He said that we are more than a conqueror, and that He will never leave us nor forsake us. It is up to us to believe that we are the righteous of God. When the opportunity to be intimate with ourself during quite moments, we should take advantage of those times to remind and reinforce what the scriptures say who we are and whom we are. We are brought with a price, Jesus gave His blood. John 3:16 says For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life.

Often we allow situations beyond our control to dictate the climate control that we live in. If we step back during these moments of utter chaos and take a deep breath and grab hold to some scriptures like Isaiah 54:17 No weapon formed against us shall prosper, or Joshua 1:9 Have I not commanded you be strong and courageous and do not be terrified, do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go. Which would you prefer to believe? What a man or woman said to you or what the word of God has said to you. We each have a choice on who and what we choose to believe, choose wisely there is a lot at stake in your decision-making.

Sometimes our lack of experience causes us to leap before we think. When life positions us at a crossroad and we are in no position to make a decision using sound judgement what do we do? If we have not develop a spiritual relationship with the Father seeking His Spiritual guidance how do we proceed. Is this the time we break out the fifty cent piece and say heads I will do this or tails I will do that? Do we seek advice from other’s who are even less qualified to try to advise us. Most people just roll the dice hoping not to crap out or roll snake eyes. Please don’t be one of those people trust and have faith in God!!!